MACTAN ISLAND, CEBU, Philippines ----- Most
reference materials for singles point out loneliness as the greatest enemy.
From the stand point of experience, I have met my greatest enemy. And she is I!
While
recuperating from a second heartbreak, I did some serious economic planning. It
was tough letting go of vanity and discipline my impulsive purchases. I made
tough decisions traditionally done by males. But pain, anger and fear of the
future propelled me to overwork. The motive was not an innate desire to be self-sufficient. I was retaliating out of bitterness and was not forewarned.
Some
of us may have been products of dysfunctional families, raised by abusive
parents, or been betrayed by people whom we regard before as friends. None of
us can control what confront us, but we can control how we respond to them.
While we are our own worst enemy, we also hold the key in solving complex
issues.
Love, not time, heals all wounds.As
I started loving and accepting myself unconditionally, I became more attuned to
the whispers of my soul and the prodding of the spirit.
02 May 2006
ReplyDeleteIRISH
araceli let me share to you my times of singlehood, loneliness,broken-heart.when i was working before in mandaue such job demands so much of my time.on my 3rd yr in that job i met a guy whom i thought my Mr.Right.in less than a yr i didnt know that he 2timed me.i only knew it mga 1.5yr namo thru our common friend.it hurts so i broke up with him.after then wala nako real bf.yet i consider God is really FAIR.in that yr our first baby in family was born may8,1997 my neice.she is the apple of our eyes.her look,the month she came to our life is my dream.since then my life’s back.then i start to consider a lot about myself.yet i admit still there’s emptyness,loneliness when the family of my sis and bros visit us in my parents house. back in the office.when i release the payroll of the workers which is very minimal.looking at them with their wives,husbands and kids.i envy at them as they have their own family.me i didnt have any financial problem then,yet,was not happy. but i would say MAN NEVER BE SATISFIED. some married wish they single and vice versa. We all have our mission in life.they say you have to ask fr God thru prayers man kuno for your Mr. Right.Think thats how i met my bana.kay both of us are not into this match maker yet we it happens nga we both online that time and thats how it starts.
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01 DEC 2009
ReplyDeleteSWISSBAY
Dear Ladies, I am a man but I have a lot of female attributes (in thinking and feeling). I am still a man, but that way can understand women better than other men, maybe.
I am not a native English speaker, therefore I do not understand all you wrote in detail and I cannot express everything in a appropriate way.
What is happiness, does it necessarily mean to be two? There are studies that people living in a pleasant relationship have less health problems and they live longer. This seems to be a proof that we need each other – women and men. For me there is nothing on earth more important and beautiful than a woman. In the past I disappointed some women and got the bill with also having got disappointed. Now I am 45 and have made a lot of thoughts about relationships.
My target is to find a life partner, or at least someone who can share this idea. I recently separated from my partner with whom I stayed for 9 years. I know that I didn’t make anything right, but she also made a lot of mistakes. I was not pleased with this relationship since years. Now I am looking for a new partner and I will carefully select. The good thing with men or me is, that women find me more attractive than earlier I my life.
Who is the one you can build a stable and pleasant relationship with? How can you find your soul mate? How will you and your partner manage to stay together, to develop your personalities in the same direction? How will you keep your sexual relationship interesting? All of these questions are not easy to answer and these subjects are much more complicated to fulfill.
I am connecting to women via Internet portals and my experiences are good. Patience I forgot to mention, I do not have the expectation to meet “her” in between 4 months. So keep on looking and be patient. Enjoy life, try to be happy even if you miss “him”. Staying happy with yourself and keeping your eyes open will enable you to meet who you are looking for. Being in a bad mood, frustrated or wanting it too much … you will fail, out of my experience.
What are your personal interests, where are men having the same? You like singing? Attend a chorus. You like chess, cooking, fashion … go to where people are having the same interests than you. Keep your eyes open and let your heart speak to you.
Maybe this text does not help directly, but you can make your mind about it, listen inside yourself and watch people also from inside – I know you can.
Michael
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01 Dec 2009
ReplyDeleteARIES
Michael, congratulations that you are finally able to sum up what to do with your current personal entanglement! If it failed, so what! At least in your deepest conscience you can say to yourself you have deeply loved. That is the true essence of love.
Thank you for your inputs. I truly appreciate your effort in letting the ladies understand singleness from a man’s perspective. Keep the faith Michael. You will soon find her. I am always here to walk with you (virtually though). One day we will meet again and laugh our hearts out.
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