Their Grass is Never Always Greener

CEBU, Philippines ----- Lately an ex-man called. That's how I label a flame that has long lost its fume.  What I thought to be simple call seeking for career advice and direction turned astonishingly atypical. He asked me if I can bear him a child. You heard me! Shock is an understatement!

Using rational wavelength, I decided to treat the conversation matter-of-factly--- void of sarcasm, malice and prejudice. Circumnavigating and using deductive logic, I counseled a child whom I previously regarded as a man. 

A) He is married. That alone should dispel whatever affection he has left, if that is how he calls it.

B) I never play with fire, so much so with the legally entangled. 

THUS: No matter how bizarre the joke may seem, it’s remotely impossible I’d take the bait. 

Dealing with Filipino men calls for a lot of responsibility. Except for the isolated few, most have marshmallow egos. One has to sugar-coat a “leave me alone” to a more subdued “you’re just having marital blues”. It’s such a blessing to understand Psychology i.e. his behavior and mine included. What good is it to envy your neighbor’s greener grass when there is so much to cherish in one’s own weeds.